Hi! I’m Melissa and welcome to Simple Lionheart Life, where you’ll find inspiration, encouragement and practical advice to simplify, organize and declutter your home and life. When you simplify your home and life, you create time and space for the things that matter most. Family, friends and amazing experiences that are waiting for you on the other side of too much; too much stuff, too many commitments, too much time wasted managing stuff you don’t even need!
What you’ll find at Simple Lionheart Life
Stuff has a way of accumulating in our homes, when you add children to the mix the amount of stuff seems to grow exponentially. If you are a mother, tired of feeling overwhelmed and stressed out by too much stuff in your life, this is the place for you! Motherhood is hard, and too much stuff only makes it harder. If you’re looking for ways to declutter your house, slow down and start living a calmer, more intentional life, I’m here for you. Sign up below to get the latest posts and inspiration to encourage you on your journey to simplicity!
I’ve been actively decluttering and minimizing my home and my life over the last four years, and I’ve learned a lot along the way. I’ll share what I’ve learned so far, and what I’m still learning. I’ve always been an organized person who prefers order over chaos, but embracing a more minimalist point of view has been life changing. Getting rid of the excess stuff, rather than just re-organizing it, has saved me so much time, stress and energy. Join me for tips about why and how to declutter, simplify and create a more intentional life. And follow along with me as I go deeper into a more minimalist lifestyle and continue to simplify and declutter our lives.
Living after losing a baby
I also write about living after losing a baby and how to navigate the world on the other side of loss. We unexpectedly lost our first child, Aiden, in 2010 when he was 19 days old. The idea of simplifying your life and losing a baby might not seem to have anything to do with each other, but losing Aiden was actually what first opened my eyes to the idea of living more simply. Losing Aiden made me realize what matters the most in this world: people. Things are just things, the people we love are what matter most.
Losing Aiden is what first planted the seed of simplifying and minimizing my life, but what really spurred me on to clearing the excess out of our lives was a couple of years later when my daughter was a busy toddler. Toddlers have the special ability to make a mess out of anything! I finally got sick of picking up the same things every day that I didn’t even need or love and decided to make a change. That’s when my real journey to simplifying and decluttering began! Less stuff means less messes to clean up and more time to enjoy being with your kids.
Of course not everyone who is on the path to simplifying their lives has lost a child, but it’s a part of my story that’s important to me to share. It’s something that has irrevocably changed me and my life, and has woven itself into every aspect of my life.
If you too have lost a child, at any age or stage in your pregnancy, you’ll find connection and understanding from another loss mom here. Knowing you’re not alone in the devastating and lonely journey after losing a baby can be so healing. None of us ever wanted to join the ranks of a bereaved parent, but connecting with others who truly understand what a heartbreaking journey it is can help. You are not alone in your grief, please reach out to me if you too have lost a baby.
Now, let me introduce myself so you can get to know me better.
I am a thirty something, stay-at-home mom. My daughter Emily and my son Gavin are here in my arms, and my son Aiden, watches over us from Heaven. I am on a journey to create a simpler, more intentional life while I figure out the world again after losing Aiden. To me, simple and intentional living means living a slower, less cluttered life, making it easier to enjoy my days and motherhood. The more I simplify and remove the excess from our lives, the more I make room to invite calmness and joy in. It’s a lot of hard work to declutter and clear your space, but the benefits are so worth it.
As I mentioned before, we lost our first child, Aiden, when he was just 19 days old. Aiden was born in 2010, after what seemed like a completely normal and uneventful pregnancy. Two days after he was born, he hadn’t had any bowel movements and the doctors realized he was spitting up bile, not colostrum like they originally reassured us. They rushed him to the nearest children’s hospital where the doctors discovered that he was born missing almost all of his small intestine. We spent 12 days in the NICU before bringing Aiden home, where he spent his last five days before dying in our arms at 19 days old. It was the most heartbreaking and traumatizing thing I have ever experienced, one that has changed the person I am today and every part of my life.
While Aiden was in the NICU, we gave him the nickname Aiden the Lionheart because he seemed so brave and wise. I called my blog Simple Lionheart Life as a tribute to him, for inspiring me to live a simpler and braver life in honour of our little lionheart.
Four months after Aiden died, I became pregnant with our daughter, Emily. Words cannot express how much light and love she brought back into our lives. Although my pregnancy with her was filled with anxiety, stress and bumps along the way, she gave us something to hope for. As she has grown, Emily has become a strong-willed and fiercely independent child who challenges me regularly while bringing so much laughter and joy into our lives. I will always be so grateful for her. Without even knowing it, she saved me from the deep, dark pit of grief I was in after losing Aiden.
Three and a half years later, we were lucky enough to welcome another son, Gavin, to our family. My pregnancy with Gavin also had its share of bumps along the way and plenty of stress and anxiety, but was a different experience than our first pregnancy after loss. Gavin is an easy-going and sweet little guy, who gives the best hugs and always has the cutest smile on his face, even when he’s getting in to trouble!
More about me
I am a creative soul who loves chai lattes and tea of all kinds. I love to make crafts and can often be found crocheting or making jewelry. I’m a true introvert and our home is my happy place. My favourite way to spend an evening is curled up on the couch with a cozy blanket, a hot cup of tea and Netflix. We live in rural Alberta, Canada. I’m lucky to be married to another introvert, Dave, a laid back, vintage video-game loving scientist. Our West Highland Terrier, Banks, is as sweet and cuddly as they come.
My yoga practice is my “me time” where I go to feel grounded and centered amongst the chaos of staying home raising two small humans. My goal is to practice some sort of yoga every day. I am also working on developing my meditation practice. Meditating is a challenge for me because I’ve always been a “doer”. I struggle to just sit and be, which probably means I need to meditate even more!
Life may not have gone the way I imagined it would, but I am beyond grateful for the life we have. My heart will always be missing the piece that Aiden took with him when he died, but it is also overflowing with love.
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