Minimalism is more than decluttering and simplifying alone. While those are important parts of the minimalist journey, truly embracing minimalism involves shifting the way you think to a minimalist mindset.
Minimalism is about committing to owning less, rather than decluttering more often. It is about changing your view of what you own and why you own it. This minimalist mindset shift happens gradually and subtly, in small ways, until one day you look around and realize your relationship with “stuff” has changed. You have a different viewpoint. Your journey towards and through minimalism has changed your mindset, in what I like to call the minimalist mindset shift.
My Own Minimalist Mindset Shift
Recently our family took a weekend trip. My husband was going to a hockey game with some friends and I had an appointment the following day, so we decided to make a mini-getaway out of it. We live in a small town with limited shopping options, so in the past when we went to the city, we usually had a long shopping list of things we “needed” and spent the whole time running from store to store. By the end of it we were all tired and cranky and came home with a bunch of new stuff.
Activities rather than shopping
This trip was different. While we did do a little shopping, without even realizing it or fully intending it, experiences and activities together became the focus of our weekend.
We went to a large mall, that has a hotel, water park, amusement park, other entertainment options along with hundreds of stores. I had a couple of things I was planning to buy, a new pair of shoes for me and some summer clothes for the kids. We went to a few stores, but the kids quickly spotted the amusement park rides. We told them they could ride a few rides, but we ended up spending the rest of the afternoon there.
The kids had a blast and it was such a fun and spontaneous way to spend the afternoon. There was nothing we really needed to buy and we had no where we had to be. When we got back to our hotel for supper, we were all tired, but happy. It was a nice change.
It’s the little things
That night we ordered room service for supper and had a picnic in our room. We did this mainly because we were tired and didn’t feel like going out again. But the kids thought it was the biggest treat ever. It reminded me simple things can be so much fun for kids. They don’t need the biggest and best of everything. They were delighted to be eating a picnic of take out food together around a hotel side table.
After supper, we went swimming in the hotel pool. It was such a fun, simple day. Nothing fancy or elaborate. But we all had fun together.
Our mindset had changed
On the way home, my husband and I reflected on the fact that we spent the whole time DOING things rather than BUYING things, and what a difference it made. We both noticed how much nicer this trip was and how much fun it was. As I thought about it, I realized our mindset has changed and shifted. We were now living with a minimalist mindset.
Owning Less, Not Purging More
Changing your mindset can often be the biggest hurdle towards minimalism for many of us. We declutter and purge our homes and are excited to embrace a more minimalist lifestyle. But then a few months later we’ve acquired a bunch of new stuff to take the place of the old. So we declutter and purge, and the cycle continues. Without changing the way we think about “stuff” and adopting a minimalist mindset, it’s difficult to make a big shift to minimalism.
Of course, even people who fully embrace minimalism need to purge and declutter occasionally. Stuff accumulates, priorities change, seasons of life change and we no longer need things we used to. But once you have fully embraced the idea of minimalism, the way you think changes. You think differently about what you have in your home, how you spend your time, what your priorities are and what you value.
Noticing this change to a minimalist mindset we’d experienced during our weekend getaway, got me thinking of the ways minimalism changes the way you think as you adopt a minimalist mindset.
The Minimalist Mindset Shift – 9 Ways Minimalism Changes The Way You Think
Here are 9 minimalist mindset shifts I’ve experienced since embracing a life with less:
1. Value experiences over physical things
Once you’ve committed to living with less, you begin looking for ways to spend your time, not just what you can buy next. You’d rather spend your time and money doing something to create memories, not add clutter to your life. Experiences, activities and adventures become more important than acquiring more things.
2. Stop buying things you don’t need
As you embrace minimalism, you become more intentional about what you bring into your space. You stop (or at least slow down, because learning to embrace living with less is a process and won’t happen overnight) buying things just to satisfy your need for something new.
Instead, you only buy things you have carefully thought about and decided will add value to your life. You start buying less and being more intentional about what you do buy.
Your spending habits in general change after the minimalist mindset shift. You prioritize spending money on activities and experiences rather than buying more “stuff”.
You stop seeing shopping as a hobby or a past time. And begin to look for new hobbies or past times that add value to your life, make you happy and aren’t focused on consumerism or acquiring more.
3. Become a fierce and intentional gatekeeper about what you allow into your home and your life
After all of your hard work decluttering, purging and minimizing your home, the last thing you want to do is fill it right back up with stuff. Knowing how much work it was to get rid of your excess stuff is excellent motivation to stop unnecessary items from coming into your home again in the first place.
You begin to pay more attention to what “stuff” is entering your home, and take on the role of a gatekeeper. Stopping unnecessary, unwanted or unneeded items from coming into your home in the first place. Instead of letting them come into your home, being forced to deal with them and ultimately decluttering them later. Your focus shifts so you are able to be more careful and intentional about what you let in your space in the first place.
4. Focus on owning less rather than decluttering more often
After the minimalist mindset shift, you stop the cycle of decluttering, then buying more, then decluttering again. Again, after all the time and effort you put into decluttering your home, you don’t want to end up right back where you started.
After the minimalist mindset shift, you realize that owning less is much easier and more beneficial than decluttering more often. Your focus changes and you actually WANT to own less because of the value it brings into your life.
5. Become more intentional with your time
Minimalism is not just about your “stuff”. It goes beyond physical items and changes the way you spend your time as well.
You begin saying no to commitments that don’t align with what you value. As well as saying no to commitments that take too much time away from what you DO value. You recognize that your time is your most valuable resource and become more intentional with how you spend it.
The minimalist mindset shift changes what you allow to take up both your space and your time. You become more intentional with both your time and space.
6. Realize happiness does not come from “things”
After you embrace the minimalist mindset, you no longer feel like you always need more. You no longer tie your happiness to what you own, thinking if once you get the latest and greatest “thing” you’ll feel happy. You stop believing you’ll be happy as soon as you make your next purchase.
Your happiness and self worth are no longer dependent on what you own. You realize the things you own are here to serve you, either by being useful or bringing you joy. What you own does not define you as a person or determine your happiness.
7. Stop comparing yourself to others based on what you own
As you embrace the minimalist mindset, you let go of the idea of “keeping up with the Joneses”. You become content with what you have. Not only does what you own not define you as a person. But you also make the intentional choice to only keep what you use and love.
You feel content with your belongings, knowing they bring value to your life rather than burdening you. With that, you no longer compare what you own to what other people own. Because it doesn’t matter. Your belongings do not define your life or your worth. You are content with less because owning less makes your life better. Comparison based on what people own becomes pointless.
8. Stop letting fear or a scarcity mindset rule what stays in your home
You stop keeping things “just in case” or because you might need it someday. You realize how rarely those “just in case” times actually happen. And on the odd occasion you do find yourself without something you could use, you know there are many different potential solutions.
Rather than hanging on to a whole bunch of stuff just in case, you look for alternatives for the thing you need. Maybe you have another item you can use in it’s place. Or perhaps you could borrow the item from a friend. Sometimes you can actually do without the item altogether and realize you didn’t need it after all. And sometimes if you can find no other alternative, you may have to buy something you previously got rid of.
But those times really are rare. And if you ask me, the space and freedom you gained from getting rid of so much unnecessary clutter, is definitely worth the price of having to potentially re-buy the odd item if you ever really need it.
9. Realize organizing is not the answer
I think a lot of us are guilty of thinking we need to organize, when really we just have too much stuff to begin with!
As the minimalist mindset shift happens you begin to see that organizing will never give you the freedom and peace you are looking for. The stuff is all still there and will eventually make it’s way out of your organized system and cause the same stress in your life. The only way to really fix the problem is to get rid of anything you don’t use or love. Only then will you free up both time and space in your home and your life.
Remember that embracing minimalism is a process, these shifts to a minimalist mindset don’t happen overnight. Most of us have spent most of our lives being told more is better and being bombarded with consumerism. It takes time and effort to shift the way we think. And some of these shifts will come more easily for you than others. But over time, the more you embrace minimalism as a lifestyle, the more your mindset shifts to embrace a minimalist mindset.
Now to you, what would you add to this list? What is the biggest minimalist mindset shift you’ve experienced or are beginning to see? What mindset shift is or will be the most difficult for you? I struggle with being a good gatekeeper in our home and stopping clutter from sneaking back in! I’d love to hear your successes and struggles as you adopt a minimalist mindset. Leave me a comment below to join the conversation!